Unloving Spirit

If we look into the mirror and do not think we are the "fairest of them all," we may have an Unloving spirit looking back at us! An Unloving spirit attaches itself to a person to make us feel rejected and causes us to reject ourself. It makes us feel unclean, unworthy and like we do not measure up. It makes us feel we are no good. When we look in the mirror, we do not like what we see. When we hear our voice, we do not like the way it sounds. When people look at us, we think they hate us. We can see it in their eyes. So we spend all our time debating with ourself as to whether we belong on this planet or not. We stand in front of the mirror and comb our hair this way and then that way. We look at this wrinkle; we look at that sag. We look at those eyes... the same old eyes that stare at us every morning in the mirror. We spend our whole day in a world of "not measuring up". This person does not like me. That person does not like me. God does not like me. I do not even like myself. Why was I born? We start replaying the same old unkind messages spoken to us in the past and they become our life. The evidence is an Unloving spirit has come to make its abode with us and we are constantly struggling with ourself. That is its nature and it needs us as a medium of expression. When we have an Unloving spirit, it wants to go on stage. We are the puppet and it is the hand that moves us. We are like a puppet going through the motions by the hand of someone or something else making us say, do and think. This is one of the greatest bondages known to mankind.

An Unloving spirit comes because we have been rejected, usually beginning in our own families. When someone who is supposed to represent God to us treats us badly, it creates a breach only God can heal. Many times an Unloving spirit comes into us because we are a victim. The people victimizing us will tell us it is all our fault and they would not be victimizing us if we had not been bad in a certain way. This can happen in marriages, in families and in any kind of relationship. God intended the man to be in charge to represent Him as Father and to be to the wife as Christ is to the church. Any violation of this produces an Unloving spirit.  

Hebrews 4:13 Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do.

We have to identify the part of us that is not of God and make it our enemy. Identify those feelings we have when we cannot look someone in the eye, those feelings that cause us to withdraw in Fear, those feelings that come when someone says we are beautiful and we think, "No, I am not." Identify those feelings that are within us that constantly accuse us to ourself. Those feelings are our enemy because they are not from God and they are not even from us. They are the voices and the presence of the Unloving, unclean spirit and every spirit that answers to it. They have invaded our spirit and our soul and have become part of our nature.

Romans 2:1 Therefore thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest: for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest doest the same things.

This talks about pointing a finger at another. "You, you, you.  You are no good.  If it were not for you...you, you, you."  

When people are coming at you, accusing you in the victimization role that will allow the Unloving spirit of Rejection to come, they, themselves have the same problem. 

We become the outlet for their frustration and Bitterness. The hatred they have for themselves and the unloveliness they have concerning themselves is vented on you, so they do not have to deal with it themself. We become their Self-hatred, Self-bitterness and unloveliness. We take it into ourselves and now we become an extension of it.

In order to gain freedom from the Unloving spirit, we must first deal with Bitterness, Envy and Jealousy, Rejection and self-rejection. 

We must deal with Rejection by others and forgive those who rejected us. 

We also have to forgive ourselves and accept ourselves. 

Next to God, we ought to be our own best friend. If we are not prepared to accept ourselves, it is Fear. It negates God's faith for us.  

Deuteronomy 32:10 He found him in a desert land, and in the waste howling wilderness; he led him about, he instructed him, he kept him as the apple of his eye.

God is saying, "From the foundation of the world, I knew you would be here.

I do not care what someone said to you. I do not care who cursed you with their tongue. 

You are mine. You are loved. I love you and you are accepted. You are the apple of my eye." You are the object of God's love. You are the apple of his eye. He has called you out of the desert of life because He loved you.

In the Hebrew language, when it says you are the apple of His eye, it means the very focus of His attention is right on you. It does not make any difference what anyone has said. When you are born again, the past is over with.

We can be complete in love and we do not need to receive it from anyone. If who we are is dependent on someone being nice to us, it will not work. We should be complete in ourselves and in God and out of that strength we give unto others.

Iniquities are visited to the next generation when family members vent their "stuff" on us and we accept it. If we decide we are going to walk in the statutes of God, we can go free from the curse coming from our ancestry. We do not have to die because of our ancestral sins. We no longer have to live with the Unloving spirit in our family tree that has been transferred from generation to generation breaking down the family tree in rage and anger, verbal abuse, physical abuse, drivenness and separation from love.

In many cases in our lives, as children, if we obeyed the law of our mother or father, whether it was righteous or unrighteous, they would love us. But we needed to receive love whether we obeyed them or not. Love has nothing to do with our disobedience; love is unconditional, constant, standard, "moving straight ahead".  

Matthew 22:37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.  

It does not say we shall obey the Lord our God.

John 14:15 If ye love me, keep my commandments.  

It does not say if we obey His commandments, He will love us. God is going to love us whether we obey His commandments or not.

In order to defeat the Unloving spirit we must leave the spiritual dynamics of our families if we are of the years of understanding, because we have inherited things not of God. If we are going to be a spiritual man or woman in our own right, we must get away from the things not of God. We must make the separation spiritually. No longer should we be the victim of our family iniquities still wanting to become part of our thinking.

At the same time, we do not abandon our families. We must be diligent toward our families even when they are in sin. So we pray for them and ask God to deal with them and then we live our lives before God in purity. 

We can be free and the issues between our mothers, fathers and families do not have to be resolved, but they must be resolved between us and God.   

We also need to take time to teach our children. Our children can be oppressed by our own ungodly spirituality and our own hatred can be extended to them. They can become an object of our own spiritual problems. 

We were created to Give & Receive Love

God created us to give love. He created us to receive love. He created us to enjoy love. We know that because He created us in His image, and He IS Love! Any Unloving spirit that tells us otherwise is in violation of Scripture. Let's give the devil a headache and love ourselves with the love God has for us!

A breakdown in relationship with us and God, us and others, or us and ourselves is the foundation for disease. We have to resolve these relationships before healing can come. We must resolve our relationship with God. We must accept ourselves and who we are. We must make peace with our brother. Let's begin to ask God to show us where the breakdown in relationship started, so we can begin the journey to healing and wholeness!

Loving Yourself is the Way to Health 

Did you know the Bible says to love yourself? It says in Matthew 22:39 to love your neighbor as yourself. Now, we are all imperfect and we all fail sometimes and may slip into Bitterness, Fear, or Jealousy. Our responsibility is to walk in the light, which means to repent - to God and those around us, trust Him to change us in His timing and above all, to love God and love ourselves! Let's work on being love to the person God created today - YOU!

This is good news: God is not out to kill us or to give us disease.  

Psalm 103:2-3 Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits: Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases.

Resource: i am changed & Be in Health Newsletter, January 6, 2014